STOP ARGUING, START TALKING

Above title was a title of Susan Quilliam's book, which the
content's similar with the title. Encourage everyone , especially
husband/wife, parents/children to `talking instead of arguing'. I
think enough sample we can find in our daily life where actually at
the beginning we just want to `talking', speaking but unfortunately
it will end up with `arguing' that will not produce any good
solution for the issue. In some case it will make more serious the
issue and hurting our opponent.

Some people will say ` arguing is better actually, right?' it is but
what I mean with arguing here is not just only give our
argumentation but mostly to the fight using the words. Longman
Dictionary of contemporary English explaining some definition
of `argue' for the positive in first meaning is :'to provide reasons
for or against (something), especially clearly and in proper order.'
Meanwhile for negative meaning is for who's fight using words is in
5th position for the meaning `to disagree in words; fight with
words; quarrel. Second word `Talking' means to talk something with
language media. This conversation is really neutral and without
involving the emotion that can direct the conversation to the fight.

Beside above negative meaning `arguing' mostly looking for reason
for ourselves causing our opponent feeling disappoint, desperate and
ask to surrender in conversation. Meanwhile `talking' is opposite,
trying deeply to understand what's in our opponent's mind so we can
understand clearly during the conversation.

So when we want to talk something please be carefully not to easily
directing to the `arguing.' Once again, stop arguing and start
talking is more important.

good morning and have a nice day to all of you!